ok so before i tell you what i want, heres some infor about me. im 17 and i have a very good job, i am at a management postion. i am a senior in HS and am going away to niagra university in the fall of 09. im also extremely mature for my age do to many family problems ive been through and have faced.
so heres my question. im a nice girl, pretty, independent and confident, not to the point of being cocky but i dont give up when challenged. for me, having guys like me and want to go out with me isnt the problem. the guys that end up falling for me are similar to me, but are always caught up in smoking or drinking. because of personal issues, i wont drink or smoke and have no real intention to. and, while depending on the guy, most times i can deal with it. but then theres the fact that every guy wants me to put out really soon in a relationship. im more of a emotional person before i can get physical with someone. honestly, im still a virgin and have no intention on changing that becuase i have some crazy idea that i want to be in love and truly care about the man before i give myself to someone like that.
so the question, are there guys out there who are mature beyond there years, yet still near my age who dont drink heavily or smoke weed, and are willing to wait…or am i just a hopeless romantic. lol it seems like every guy has some flaw that is a major turn off to me. guys, let me know am i being really picky and selfish or is there someone out there like this!!
This post was submitted by susie.
If you wait forever to have sex, you may literally wait forever. Not to say that you won’t fall in love with someone and form a relationship deeper than previous ones.
Sex doesn’t have to be this evil or pornographic related thing; But if you’re waiting to fall in love and think that once that happens you will stay together; You may be disappointed. It’s your life. But you’re only young once. Women don’t always age well, as insensitive as that may seem, it’s true. Guys unfairly age well, sometimes.
There are guys out there who can respect your decision to wait and they aren’t tangled in smoking or alcohol. Just figure out why you’ve decided to wait until “the one” – and maybe it’s something that you are over thinking.
You can clearly see that I’m not one for waiting your whole life. But to each their own.
Come back in the next few days – others will give their opinion. That’s just mine.
Welcome to the site Susie!
I am 16 and I consider myself to be fairly attractive (i felt pretty arrogant saying that XD), and I am doing fairly well in school. I think alcohol/weed/drugs in general is honestly a waste of time, money and it fucks up your life so I don’t bother doing those things. I am also a virgin, but my reasons are a bit different.
I would honestly LOVE to have sex with someone, but I haven’t bothered to yet in a due to the fact I am just so damn nervous about it and I haven’t found anyone that I think is worth it. I would without a doubt wait to have sex with my girlfriend if she didn’t want to yet, considering should date her just for sex (that is just a bonus ;D)
At this point I could start ranting but I will get to the point.
Yes there is guys like that out there, I consider myself one of them, but most guys will just want to get into your pants and will smoke a lot of weed too.
If you don’t care about looks then it shouldn’t be THAT hard to find someone, if you do, then your options are a lot more limited.
Are you all for real? too young.
Life experiences can change the way you see the world and perceive inter-relations, it doesn’t necessarily make you an expert on love and relationships. Get to know each other. Date!
Go places. Have fun exploring your city, hometown, places nearby! Build adventures, and secret inside jokes about the things you share during those adventures. Thrive on the energy you get from being with each other! .. and outlet it in a positive way where there can be personal growth.
High school is too young for sex. College too may even be too young! Don’t do something to keep the other.. it may hurt and confuse you, but he or she is not worth it.
Learn to embrace life! Learn what love means. Marriage really was the ideal until.. actually, just watch or read up on the movie ‘Kinsey’ – its kinda the documentary on the change of mindset in society for what is and wasn’t acceptable. The movie explains a lot. Just don’t warped into the guy’s mindset! You’ll see why in the end.
I say focus on school. Get a great career path going. Date, go places, have fun seeing new things together, learning about each other! See if in the long run you can see something, together. You’ll see things differently when ur older.
hope this helps someone.
-from a girl, 20s.
and to answer the question.. yes, there are guys out there
don’t change who you are and what you believe in. Keep faith
in ur heart alive, work on finding and building who you are.
I can’t believe no one responded to this inquiry properly yet.
Best of luck in love!
high school and college is when you start doubting yourself.. life experiences are good, but you are constantly learning more about yourself. never forget love in the heart is worth more.