this may sound stupid but im gonna make it short. To start off I want to give a little backround on me so you can see where i’m coming from better. I am a paranoid person when it comes to relationships and a boyfriends commitment to me. Mainly do to self esteem issues after eating disorders and such, my matabolism slowed down much so I gain weight easily, I always compare myself to other females and think wow there so hot why does he want to be with me? Any way I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year and we are certainly in love. We even often bring up marriage way down the road and living together and children… etc. I try not to get completley hopeful because I know things happen.. and once again I am a very paranoid person!! So here’s the problem he wants to get a facebook and I’m scared he will see all the pictures of his previous girlfriend whom he also was with for a year. He broke up with her, I don’t ask questions cause it’s his past. But his x-girlfriend is hot and has a perfect body. Now just for your information im not overweight or anything, I am just very hard on myself. But i’m worried that him getting this facebook will bring them back together and then i’m out of the picture!! Honestly it makes me ill thinking about it, literally. I don’t know if I should discuss this with him or is that a bad idea. I know this is stupid haha. Any opinions would be great thanks!
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hey to tell you the truth you love him don’t you and he loves you
if you feel scard about losing him i would talk to him because if he really loves you he will total understand where your coming from do you understand where im coming from ?
let him have a facebook tell him to not add her
its totally a legitimate worry, i get what ur saying. try telling him why you don’t have one like.. i can keep in contact with everyone with email, i like few friends but close friends.. why is it you want to get the facebook?..
i see a lot of people obsess with the facebook too.. but don’t outright say it bothers you and that ur worried he’ll add his ex-girlfriend.. kinda play with ur words and see where he’s coming from. if he’s not sold on the idea, but just thinking.. you can kinda get him to stall and re-think.
the guy i just started seeing broke up with his ex but they still have pictures and everything on each others facebook.. other friends of their have pictures of them together on theirs too! .. weird, b/c they broke up a while ago .. (recently I found this all out. actually he pointed the pictures out to me.. kinda very weird, I have to admit, that he takes me to his ex’s facebook to look at pictures of their pets.. weirdo).. I’m considering not seeing him anymore.. i don’t have anything against pets, but.. he hasn’t made any changes, though he probably knows he should
but by that story, you know what.. you could get a facebook along with ur boyfriend and wrap the two accounts together by having him post pictures of the two of you together.. and you post pictures of you two together.. just hope that he doesn’t cheat.. I’ve heard that happens too.. wouldn’t it be weird if the guy I’m seeing didn’t actually break up but he was just saying that.. it has crossed my mind.. I’m being careful.. we’re in the early stages.
lol, this became a mini-vent session.. but my thoughts on the facebook thing is there too.. maybe it helped in some way
hey. i wouldn’t go for an ex that is in a relationship, that is so wrong.. but I did get asked out by an ex that was in a relationship and i see where the worry is. he searched and found me.
He was like that when he was with me.. and then time elapsed and all of a sudden it was me that he was contacting, guess he was dense and didn’t see the pattern.. trust that what happens happens for a reason and if you’re in love and meant to be that it will work out. i knew why i didn’t want my ex and it was that same reason that showed up, but i didn’t forget what happened! happened once, can happen again.. such a cheater! i hope this doesn’t happen for you.
your choice if you’re comfortable with him having a facebook or not, your choice to tell him how you feel and (if you do) how you tell him, his choice if he gets an account or not.
best of luck. i hope whichever choice it is that you’ll be comfortable and the relationship stays strong
been there done that….I helped my boyfriend set up a facebook page. Two days later his love of his life found him, friended him….Guess whos single?? ME …..Facebook or not, whats meant to be is meant to be. bye bye boyfriend, better now than later!!
Oh but forgot the best part….He told me that he cancelled his Facebook page because it was a waste of time…..But what he really did was block me, my friends and Family and changed his password.
What did he think, that I am just that dumb…