This would be my first post and its a big thing in my life right now. and i need some advice.. When i was 4 My father left.. and he never returned he got into a lot of trouble and he got arrested. My mother was 16 when she had me and so basically she never sugar coated anything. She told me everything flat out and became my best friend. She was my world and she still is today. and i don’t know where i would be without her. But now.. I work at Lonestar 18 years old and his mother came in a few months ago.. and i stoped her and asked her if her name was Bev and she looked at me and said yes whom are you. i told her i was Star her eldest boys son.. and she like pulled me into her arms and started to Cry. i was so scared and i started talking to My father and he started learning more and more about me and like we were on the same page… and one night he made me really mad he knows how i feel about things and its like he told me that i wasn’t to old that he can’t bend me over his knee and im like im not 2 and he thinks that he can tell me that i can’t talk to him the way that i do.. im a freshman in college and im an adult are you kidding me! you can’t tell me what i can and can’t say when you haven’t been in my life for 14 years.. and think you can just walk right in and think that you earned respect. but what i need advice on is im going with my Aunt and My boyfriend to meet him all over again for the first time and im terrified does anyone have any advice? it would be greatly appreciated.
Love,
Star
Hun, in his eyes you are still young, he doesn’t see you as a young adult. You need to show him that you are an ADULT and you demand respect for yourself. Lay out the ground rules I’ll respect you, you respect me, and we can try to form a renewed relationship. This will put the ball in his court and that will help him to see, “hey, this isn’t a child I need to take a different approach”. Maybe he will see things a little more on your plain.