Ok, so I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years, he is 28 years old and I am 25 years old. I recently asked him to marry me and he said that we were not ready yet. I tell him that I love him, but he seems uncomfortable saying it, his family doesn’t show much affection to each other or anyone that I have ever seen them with. He shows a lot of affection to me tho, just not with the words I love you. When I asked him to marry me I asked if he felt that we have a future together and he said that he has gone shopping for a ring but can’t afford it. My response was I dont’ want a ring, I just want him, I want him to be my husband forever. He still said we are not ready and I said that I am ready, but I am not going to wait forever for him to get ready. Since we had this discussion, he has been a lot more lovey dovey to me. He has been giving me lots of hugs, kisses ect, more date nights, and he has started to do more stuff around the house. We have lived together for about 2 years now and he has never been into chores much but now all of a sudden he is doing them with out me asking. I asked him what prompted his change and he always says something like what change? Is this his way of showing me that he wants a future with me but he isn’t ready yet? Or could he just be leading me on? I feel that he truely does love me, but I told him that he needs to make a choice on this matter before our lease is up a year from now because I’m not going to wait forever. Do you think I should just let the topic go? I’m a little confused about him right now, but I really appreciate the changes he has made! He has really made my life easier with the help he has given me, and who could be upset about more hugs and kisses, right?
He’s getting ready for marriage, he is not ready yet so he is preparing.