Comments on: WIfe talking to ex-boyfriend http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 00:48:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-7365 Anonymous Thu, 15 Jul 2010 20:45:48 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-7365 Wow, Well there is certainly a lot of issues here. None of them are simple as is nothing dealing with the heart. My best advice for those with children is to just separate. Go rent a hotel room for a night, and leave taking the kids with you. You don't have to tell them where you're going, but this will hopefully open their eyes as to their "innocent" behavior. I want to say that kids are a stupid reason to stay together. I know so many people who are farked up because their parents stayed together, but shouldn't have. Kids will understand what divorce is. they deal with half of their friends parents being divorced, so why should you be so special. Really though, You have to do what's best for yourself, and for the kids. If your spouse isn't in the marriage for you, then you don't have to put up with it. just leave. The next day, come home and talk about it. Tell your spouse you don't want to break apart, but you're not going to be disrespected that way. Sure they may say you're just being jealous, but your vows said "forsaking all others", well that's what it means. So just leave, come back tomorrow and see if there's any difference. If nothing changes, then maybe you should look into divorce. I don't say that lightly mind you. But your health, happiness and the safety of your family is at stake. I would also notify the other woman about it. what do you have to lose in that? Real quick, I'll go over a couple comments. 1. yeah, pretty much what I'm saying, separate. 2. Emotional cheating, Yes this is the definition, but as always there are circumstances. 3. You should trust, Don't "try to catch" it's either you do or you don't. there is no try. If it turns out she cheats then you leave. 4. that's the right attitude. Positive. 11. that's the right idea. 12-14. Just leave, Separate. it's what's best. Be single, get over it. take care of your kids. 15. Yeah, when it's over it's over. No love w/o trust. 18. That's not the positive I was talking about. I hope you didn't give it to your husband. sucks to be you, but try to keep a positive attitude. 22. Yeah, right on, I agree. 23. You're 14! don't worry about it, there's 100 other hottie girls in your school who'd love to hold hands and giggle and draw your name on their notebook. They don't know what they want just as much as you dont. So, don't worry about it, you have at least 10 years before you should be thinking about marriage anyway. 24. Best policy is honesty. Just tell him, you didn't do anything wrong, and I think you handled it well so just tell him, and preface it with, "I think we should talk...", so he knows the feces are colliding with the rotating air propulsion apparathis. Wow, Well there is certainly a lot of issues here. None of them are simple as is nothing dealing with the heart. My best advice for those with children is to just separate. Go rent a hotel room for a night, and leave taking the kids with you. You don’t have to tell them where you’re going, but this will hopefully open their eyes as to their “innocent” behavior. I want to say that kids are a stupid reason to stay together. I know so many people who are farked up because their parents stayed together, but shouldn’t have. Kids will understand what divorce is. they deal with half of their friends parents being divorced, so why should you be so special. Really though, You have to do what’s best for yourself, and for the kids. If your spouse isn’t in the marriage for you, then you don’t have to put up with it. just leave. The next day, come home and talk about it. Tell your spouse you don’t want to break apart, but you’re not going to be disrespected that way. Sure they may say you’re just being jealous, but your vows said “forsaking all others”, well that’s what it means. So just leave, come back tomorrow and see if there’s any difference. If nothing changes, then maybe you should look into divorce. I don’t say that lightly mind you. But your health, happiness and the safety of your family is at stake. I would also notify the other woman about it. what do you have to lose in that?

Real quick, I’ll go over a couple comments.
1. yeah, pretty much what I’m saying, separate.
2. Emotional cheating, Yes this is the definition, but as always there are circumstances.
3. You should trust, Don’t “try to catch” it’s either you do or you don’t. there is no try. If it turns out she cheats then you leave.
4. that’s the right attitude. Positive.

11. that’s the right idea.

12-14. Just leave, Separate. it’s what’s best. Be single, get over it. take care of your kids.

15. Yeah, when it’s over it’s over. No love w/o trust.

18. That’s not the positive I was talking about. I hope you didn’t give it to your husband. sucks to be you, but try to keep a positive attitude.

22. Yeah, right on, I agree.

23. You’re 14! don’t worry about it, there’s 100 other hottie girls in your school who’d love to hold hands and giggle and draw your name on their notebook. They don’t know what they want just as much as you dont. So, don’t worry about it, you have at least 10 years before you should be thinking about marriage anyway.

24. Best policy is honesty. Just tell him, you didn’t do anything wrong, and I think you handled it well so just tell him, and preface it with, “I think we should talk…”, so he knows the feces are colliding with the rotating air propulsion apparathis.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-7364 Anonymous Thu, 15 Jul 2010 10:24:30 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-7364 I have some problem and I was trying to find out solution. I am married (very happily) and in love with my husband deeply. We have two beautiful kids. Few days back, a common friend of my Ex-boyfriend met me on social networking site. This fellow started asking about that guy and I simply said that I loved him and that was my past. However, this fellow forwarded my mail id to my Ex-BF. When I received his mail, I felt terrible. I replied him saying that I would not like to receive your mails and if you are very interested than make sure your wife is sitting next to you when ever you communicate. This guy sent me mails 4-5 mails, asked my number which I did not respond. I am not bothered at all as I feel today the relation I have with my husband is much stronger than any other relation and the only relation which has similar strength to that is what I have with my kids :D. Now my problem is that I am having this feeling that I should tell this to my husband. However I feel that unnecessary he will feel insecure or bad when there is nothing. So my dilemma is this whether I should tell him or not. I will be thankful if someone can help me to deal with this situation. I have some problem and I was trying to find out solution. I am married (very happily) and in love with my husband deeply. We have two beautiful kids. Few days back, a common friend of my Ex-boyfriend met me on social networking site. This fellow started asking about that guy and I simply said that I loved him and that was my past. However, this fellow forwarded my mail id to my Ex-BF. When I received his mail, I felt terrible. I replied him saying that I would not like to receive your mails and if you are very interested than make sure your wife is sitting next to you when ever you communicate. This guy sent me mails 4-5 mails, asked my number which I did not respond. I am not bothered at all as I feel today the relation I have with my husband is much stronger than any other relation and the only relation which has similar strength to that is what I have with my kids :D . Now my problem is that I am having this feeling that I should tell this to my husband. However I feel that unnecessary he will feel insecure or bad when there is nothing. So my dilemma is this whether I should tell him or not. I will be thankful if someone can help me to deal with this situation.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-7315 Anonymous Tue, 06 Jul 2010 05:34:12 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-7315 Me and my "girlfriend" (were not in a relationship yet because we don't live close go each other but were going to the same school in September. ) were in love. We are 14. We talk everyday and have a healthy relationship. I was talking to a girl I used to like because she invited me to a cookout. I told my girlfriend and she got upset and at nighttime , she said goodnight Anne. (Anne is the person I used to like name) so I say goodnight Aaron because Aaron is her ex and she gets sooo upset. Then I apologize and stuff. We get past that. And now , not even a week later , she told me she was talking to Aaron at 4:00 am. She's o ly talked to me until like 2:30. I was upset and didn't want to talk so she says "bye". And won't answer my calls or texts. Any tips ? Remember , were 14. Idk y she's upset. HELLlppp please. Me and my “girlfriend” (were not in a relationship yet because we don’t live close go each other but were going to the same school in September. ) were in love. We are 14. We talk everyday and have a healthy relationship. I was talking to a girl I used to like because she invited me to a cookout. I told my girlfriend and she got upset and at nighttime , she said goodnight Anne. (Anne is the person I used to like name) so I say goodnight Aaron because Aaron is her ex and she gets sooo upset. Then I apologize and stuff. We get past that. And now , not even a week later , she told me she was talking to Aaron at 4:00 am. She’s o ly talked to me until like 2:30. I was upset and didn’t want to talk so she says “bye”. And won’t answer my calls or texts. Any tips ? Remember , were 14. Idk y she’s upset. HELLlppp please.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-7179 Anonymous Mon, 21 Jun 2010 23:42:36 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-7179 wow - I am in the same boat as others. Wife secretly chatting with ex boyfriend, claims it is all innocent, "just friends" etc. I found out and told her in no uncertain terms, if there is anything close to communication with him or anyone else she has had a previous romantic interest in IN SECRET then we are done. Having 2 kids makes this extremely difficult. If my wife is out of love with me I know we can both move on, but we are responsible for our kids and their future too. How she could toss her kids futures aside for fleeting personal gratification, I will never understand. The issue is secrecy. People with things to hide keep secrets. It is as simple as that. For those of you that keep giving 2nd and 3rd chances you are doomed to heartbreak. You are a spouse - not a friend. If your wife/husband respecteed you they would not keep a secret that clearly upsets you. Grow some balls (eggs) and get some self respect. I will forgive my wife once and only once. After that, as hard as it could be, I will divorce. My biggest worry is the effect on our kids. I want the world for them and am so pissed that my wife would so carelessly and greedily think of her own self interest above theirs. And the truly hard part is knowing that she will likely get custody if we do split. I am truly praying that she will stop her secret communications and think of me and her kids this time. # 18 - No sympathy here. You got what you deserved. You took a risk, rolled the dice and lost. You ex husband is the lucky one and you get to face yourself every day in the mirror and know you f'd up and will pay the piper. wow – I am in the same boat as others. Wife secretly chatting with ex boyfriend, claims it is all innocent, “just friends” etc. I found out and told her in no uncertain terms, if there is anything close to communication with him or anyone else she has had a previous romantic interest in IN SECRET then we are done. Having 2 kids makes this extremely difficult. If my wife is out of love with me I know we can both move on, but we are responsible for our kids and their future too. How she could toss her kids futures aside for fleeting personal gratification, I will never understand. The issue is secrecy. People with things to hide keep secrets. It is as simple as that. For those of you that keep giving 2nd and 3rd chances you are doomed to heartbreak. You are a spouse – not a friend. If your wife/husband respecteed you they would not keep a secret that clearly upsets you. Grow some balls (eggs) and get some self respect. I will forgive my wife once and only once. After that, as hard as it could be, I will divorce. My biggest worry is the effect on our kids. I want the world for them and am so pissed that my wife would so carelessly and greedily think of her own self interest above theirs. And the truly hard part is knowing that she will likely get custody if we do split. I am truly praying that she will stop her secret communications and think of me and her kids this time.

# 18 – No sympathy here. You got what you deserved. You took a risk, rolled the dice and lost. You ex husband is the lucky one and you get to face yourself every day in the mirror and know you f’d up and will pay the piper.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-7172 Anonymous Mon, 21 Jun 2010 01:57:08 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-7172 Question? What is mssing in a relationship if one partner finds the need to connect or find someone else? My experience was that I stumbled on an ex boyfriend on the net, in all innocence sent him an email just to see how he was going. It went from there - he was living in a different country. I was already in a troubled marriage & he told me the same, so at the time were both open to the emotional relationship - this went on for 18 months until I decided this wasn't good for either of us. We are both still married but I have made the break from mine - not for my cyberspace friend but to be on my own - what he did was gave me the confidence/self esteem to make a decision I should have made years ago. So my thoughts are: you need to look at your relationship and ask why it happened and either sort it out or get out of the relationship. Don't dwell on it forever - it will make all involved bitter and twisted. Take your own responsibility in your relationship - but remember it takes two! Question? What is mssing in a relationship if one partner finds the need to connect or find someone else?
My experience was that I stumbled on an ex boyfriend on the net, in all innocence sent him an email just to see how he was going.
It went from there – he was living in a different country. I was already in a troubled marriage & he told me the same, so at the time were both open to the emotional relationship – this went on for 18 months until I decided this wasn’t good for either of us. We are both still married but I have made the break from mine – not for my cyberspace friend but to be on my own – what he did was gave me the confidence/self esteem to make a decision I should have made years ago. So my thoughts are: you need to look at your relationship and ask why it happened and either sort it out or get out of the relationship. Don’t dwell on it forever – it will make all involved bitter and twisted. Take your own responsibility in your relationship – but remember it takes two!

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-7153 Anonymous Fri, 18 Jun 2010 10:40:09 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-7153 You need to get your wife and yourself to a professional marrage theropist and get to the root of why she needs to be in contact with this ex lover. Sounds like you have a major problem that is coming to a head. It is so easy to contact and be in touch with ex lovers with social networks and this is causing many relationship issues. Make sure you are doing the right thing at your end as far as your relationship and see where the chips fall. Good luck. You need to get your wife and yourself to a professional marrage theropist and get to the root of why she needs to be in contact with this ex lover. Sounds like you have a major problem that is coming to a head. It is so easy to contact and be in touch with ex lovers with social networks and this is causing many relationship issues. Make sure you are doing the right thing at your end as far as your relationship and see where the chips fall. Good luck.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-6970 Anonymous Tue, 25 May 2010 15:22:16 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-6970 Post # 18 - you got everything you deserved from your ex - shame on you for what you have done - now you get to live with it. Post # 18 – you got everything you deserved from your ex – shame on you for what you have done – now you get to live with it.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-6943 Anonymous Fri, 21 May 2010 21:47:21 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-6943 im a woman who divorced not too long ago. I started sleeping with my ex boyfriend. I just found out im HIV. My ex husband isnt the one who gave it to me. With my ex boyfriend the condom broke 4 months ago. Do the math. Go figure. Life is soooo hard for me each day now. im a woman who divorced not too long ago. I started sleeping with my ex boyfriend. I just found out im HIV.
My ex husband isnt the one who gave it to me.
With my ex boyfriend the condom broke 4 months ago.

Do the math. Go figure. Life is soooo hard for me each day now.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-6934 Anonymous Wed, 19 May 2010 10:54:48 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-6934 Confront the girlfriend.Tell her what is going on.Start talking to his girlfriend.Even it up. Confront the girlfriend.Tell her what is going on.Start talking to his girlfriend.Even it up.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.guyscrytoo.com/advice/wife-talking-to-ex-boyfriend/comment-page-1/#comment-6917 Anonymous Sun, 16 May 2010 11:15:41 +0000 http://www.guyscrytoo.com/?p=899#comment-6917 What's the progrm that can let see all the emails and password on your computer. What’s the progrm that can let see all the emails and password on your computer.

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