Ok, this is what’s going on in my life right now. About 3 weeks ago my girlfriend broke up with me. I’d been talking about breaking up off and on all summer. Well, anyway I read a girl’s advice on another site that when it’s their first serious relationship, when marriage and all that gets brought up they get overwhelmed and it can be scary. My girlfriend was talking about ‘needing some space’ and then deciding if we should ‘just be friends’ or not at first, but I wanted to know if she found somebody else. It was the first thing I asked. She came through after some prodding that she had been attracted to another guy who was “just nice to people”. I was my ex-girlfriend’s first relationship. She is very shy and clumsy and probably won’t have the guts to talk to this guy, but she’s attractive enough that I still worry. She’s lied to me if another guy is the reason we broke up. Well, all I can say is, she agreed to go get a fountain drink and just drive around a little bit the very weekend after we broke up. I got a new haircut, put on a nice shirt and actually shaved, ect. The idea was that I’d be able to see if I can impress her once we’d broken up, you know. Like I read on another internet site, another thing women do this is because they want to let you down easy, still like you and may want it again in the future, but don’t want the relationship anymore at that point. That’s what’s really sad, if you take it personally. At this stage, I have bought her one gift, a book, taken her out that one time, and poured my guts into her cell phone’s voice mail. That’s when she stopped responding altogether. I had brought up how much I wanted to marry her eventually. This was also the last thing we talked about before breaking up, and it made her wince quite noticeably. So the reply I got to it when I further spoke on the topic (after being broken up) was, “I don’t know how to talk to you or what to say”. Then she didn’t respond again for like a week. My opinion at this point is that she’s taking a step back to see the situation and might not want to get a relationship going with me again, if at all, and probably not for some time. The only positive option I can really do is be nice to her and keep my contacting her to bare minimum. If she sees me as a nice guy and gets a chance to believe I’m “the one” it’ll work out. By the way, yea, she’s pretty tricky to hang out with. Ya know, cuz she’s so shy and everything. Remember, it was her first relationship.