My girlfriend of 4 months indicated that her ex boyfriend may stay with her for a month vacation. They were in a 5 year relationship. The breakup was amicable, continue to be friends, he is overseas. I’m not comfortable with his impending visit, I’m questioning her intent. I asked her on sleeping arranagements, my role, why is he coming… Over reaction on my part?
Any advice appreciated.
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Your reaction seems completely valid.
If your relationship with this woman is reaching a semi-serious to serious level, I think the best thing you could do would be to sit down with her and talk about how you feel. Granted, she may still have him stay with her, but this does not necessarily mean that anything may happen between them.
Ask if you can meet the guy, make plans to spend time with her alone while he is there. But if this is an issue that is really bothering you, let her know and ask her to put herself in your shoes.
No one should have to give up a friendship for a partner, but they should be respectful of their partners feelings and set realistic boundaries.