Open Relationship Advice, One Night Stands, Anonymous Dating Advice | Guys Cry Too http://www.guyscrytoo.com Sun, 18 Dec 2011 16:11:34 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.1 I need help on what to do my life basically http://www.guyscrytoo.com/i-need-help-on-what-to-do-my-life-basically/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/i-need-help-on-what-to-do-my-life-basically/#comments Sat, 16 Apr 2011 11:50:48 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1544 Continue reading →]]> I’m with my partner of 7 years I’m 21 years old and we have a son who is 16 months old. We have a house together and all is not good, we are not getting along like we used to, that’s not the problem I have fell in love with someone and she feels the same way we’ve been like it for about 5 months, I am really stuck on what to do, I don’t want to lose out on seeing my son grow up as I may only see him on a weekend, but should that stop me from being in a good relationship? My partner knows I’ve text this girl but I like her too much to call it off with her. Any advice would help me massively
Thank you
Scott

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/i-need-help-on-what-to-do-my-life-basically/feed/ 5 Am I right to break up with my girlfriend. http://www.guyscrytoo.com/am-i-right-to-break-up-with-my-girlfriend/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/am-i-right-to-break-up-with-my-girlfriend/#comments Sat, 16 Apr 2011 10:13:03 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1534 Continue reading →]]> My girlfriend got pissed because I hung out with my ex and lied about it. I only lied because I knew she’d be mad if she knew. But, when I hung out with my ex it obviously wasn’t alone. Other people were there and she happened to be there to this happened a couple of times. And most of the time I didn’t know she’d be there. So I told my girlfriend the truth tday and she got pissed. So I was like fuck it and stopped talking to her for a few hours then she clals me crying saying she wants to talk things over I ignored it then, AGAIN she calls me but with some guy in the background talking to me to. So she’s with some random dude. Im wtf…So i broke with her. I honestly dont want to deal with this no more she won’t leave me alone. I don’t want to be with her anymore.She talks to guys on fb too. I sound like a jealous fuck but why is my girl talking to random dudes.

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/am-i-right-to-break-up-with-my-girlfriend/feed/ 1 how do i tell my best friend i love her? http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-tell-my-best-friend-i-love-her/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-tell-my-best-friend-i-love-her/#comments Sat, 16 Apr 2011 10:12:58 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1538 Continue reading →]]> So me and my best friend have known each other for about 12 years and I love her so much, she knew I had a crush on her and I always helped her through relationships and stuff and me and her talked for a couple weeks in high school(2 1/2 years ago) and it was just too weird for her she said and to this day I can’t stop crying about it. I know she loves me and cares for me but not in the same way I love her. She is with a no good boyfriend who cheated on her for the biggest part of they’re relationship(1 year) but she “loves him” and he “makes her happy” but I don’t think she knows the way I feel for her, how much I love her gorgeous blue eyes, and how’s she’s perfect, but at the same time she’s not. How I can see her and my heart skips a beat or 2 or 3, and when she hugs me, I feel invincible. I lose so much sleep, cry so many tears, I just want her, and i’d do anything, I mean anything:’( I want her to know I’m not the same guy I was in high school but I’m scared our friendship will suffer because of this, I’m scared of how she will react:’( please help

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-tell-my-best-friend-i-love-her/feed/ 3 I sent sexy photos and now I am regretting it http://www.guyscrytoo.com/i-sent-sexy-photos-and-now-i-am-regretting-it/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/i-sent-sexy-photos-and-now-i-am-regretting-it/#comments Thu, 14 Apr 2011 09:19:36 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1529 Continue reading →]]> There is this guy I am seeing and I like him and he asked me to take some sexy photos and in one of them I took a photo of showing my breasts and now I regret it because I think the only reason he wanted it was to send to his friends or have fun with it if you know what I mean. I am so confused and hurt was he testing me? Was he trying to show his friends what I look like naked??

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/i-sent-sexy-photos-and-now-i-am-regretting-it/feed/ 3 Open relationship issues http://www.guyscrytoo.com/open-relationship-issues/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/open-relationship-issues/#comments Sun, 23 Jan 2011 00:40:57 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1523 Continue reading →]]> My wife and I were separated by distance for quite some time. In addition, we haven’t had the best sex life for a long time. I got in touch with an old friend of mine from high school who had been mutually attracted to me, but never went anywhere. We ended up flirting, as we had in high school, and that turned into phone sex and pictures exchanged. This happened a couple of times but we were in different states so nothing more happened and wouldn’t have happened if we were in the same state, as I felt that was way crossing the boundaries.
My wife has always touted herself as “the coolest chick on the planet.” She has always been open to the idea of an open relationship and understands that people can not just be attracted to one person in this world. These have always been her words, not mine. She was finally able to move to my state and nothing had really gone on between me and this other girl for a few months now. However, she found the pictures and asked me about them. I told her about it and how I wasn’t really interested in this girl, I was just horny and lonely in a new state where I didn’t know anyone. She understood, but was upset that I hadn’t let her know about it and didn’t realize that our relationship had gotten to the point of being that open. However, she had already been making out with other guys at these conventions that she works at all over the country. No sex, just kissing, according to her.
So she says she is glad that she found out and that she can feel more free to flirt more intensely with these other guys. She says it has sparked a part of her that felt stifled in our struggling marriage and that I am reaping the benefits of that sexually. Well, our sex life didn’t really change much at the time (has recently gotten better) but she continued to pursue these other men. Meanwhile, the girl that I had flirted with has cut off her friendship with me, per her husband’s request (he knew things were going on and he has fibromyalgia, preventing him from getting physically close to her and they had marrital problems as well), so that they could work on their marriage after she had a life-threatening illness.
So this “open relationship” thing that I’m supposed to be in with my wife consists of her potentially having sex with other guys (two to three potentials, one of which didn’t “work out”) while she travels the country doing these conventions, seeing these other guys.
Overall, our marriage has gotten better due to me working on some personal issues that I had that, I’m sure, contributed in some way to our lack of sex life previously. But I have seen the light and am working on being more of a partner in the relationship in order to make our relationship better. And that has worked and our relationship is better. But I never really was interested in having relationships with other people and, even if I was, I wouldn’t know how to go about bridging that subject, as the only people I’m in contact with are students of mine (college) and I’m not going there. I’ve told her that if she’s going to be in these other relationships, that I want to know what’s going on between them. I feel, as her husband, I have a right to ask that. But she’s being very secretive, saying that nothing’s going on between her and this one guy, when I find sexually descriptive chats on her computer about what she is going to do to him when they meet and pics of his junk. The jealousy is eating me up. I feel that, if there’s any “pay back” that was warranted for my not letting her know about my short-lived distance relationship, if you could call it that as it lasted, really, about a month tops and only a few times at that, that pay back has been met and exceeded. I am working very hard at the other aspects of our relationship that were hurting us and I feel more confident in the status of our relationship, but I want to focus on US and I want her to focus on US so we can get us back on track. If the open relationship thing comes up again in the future, I have to problem exploring that in the future. And I don’t mind her flirting with other guys. But the jealousy is eating me up right now. I really can’t take it anymore.
I have never really been in an open relationship and am really trying to wrap my brain around it. I’ve always been a one-woman man, even if I tried to “date around” in college. I couldn’t really do it. I adore my wife to no end and she says there’s no way she would ever leave me. And, yet, she’s being so secretive. I just don’t know what to do and it’s really messing me up. Please help me. I’m still new to this state, I feel very alone here and don’t have anyone to talk to about this.

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/open-relationship-issues/feed/ 1 Am I being unreasonable? http://www.guyscrytoo.com/am-i-being-unreasonable/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/am-i-being-unreasonable/#comments Sat, 15 Jan 2011 01:39:46 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1517 Continue reading →]]> I met this guy online in August of 2010; he is 55 and I am 35. After several weeks of communicating, we finally met in October where I flew to his country. When we met, most of what we spoke about via the net were true. I spent several weeks with him and after I came to my home country, he flew to a Caribbean island for several weeks on vacation. Before I went to visit him, I knew he was not rich but a humble, christian minded man and we have now agreed to a relationship. I cooked for him and treated him respectfully though we had occasional verbal differences. I am an educated woman with degrees and very respectful of other people’s feelings. But now that I am at home, i have begun to have second guesses. Because though he came across as “different” from other guys, he has only called me from his vacation about twice and when he texts me, which is once every three to four days, it was to just say he is “thinking” about me but cannot call me because he has no credit or he used it up calling home (which is in Europe). I prefer calling him as opposed to texting and spend at least five minutes to have a conversation.

I am unemployed and searching for a new job but am under a lot of financial stress and though he knows about this, he has not offered any help, opting to point out that the time I spent with him has depleted his cash flow. Since I came back home my family has been slaughtering me behind my back, gossiping that I am being used by this man because he has nothing to offer me. I shared this with him in a discreet way and he said they do not know him so how can they judge him. My contention is this, should I leave this man alone or allow this to blossom? I am not an opportunist or gold digger, just a woman searching for a man of his word because I am a dedicated, hardworking woman with a desire to be the success of my passion. This is my fourth attempt at a relationship and I am feeling that if this fails, i will give it a rest.

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/am-i-being-unreasonable/feed/ 0 how to trust a loved one who has lied to you multiple times? http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-to-trust-a-loved-one-who-has-lied-to-you-multiple-times/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-to-trust-a-loved-one-who-has-lied-to-you-multiple-times/#comments Sat, 15 Jan 2011 01:39:42 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1513 Continue reading →]]> I am a 32 year old male and my spouse is a 30 year old female.we have been in a relationship for 14 years and it has not always been good. Maybe 5 years into the relationship we had our 1st breakup and she moved in with another man that lasted about 8 months .Then we got back together and one day i came home from work for her and our 6 year old daughter gone. she says she was at her moms but her car was never there,less than a week she was moved in with another man with our child there.that lasted about a month and she came back pregnant with his child,she decided to have an abortion and i tried to forgive.now only 6 months ago i busted her telling me lies about a guy she was friends with in high school. she said nothing happened however they texted back and forth alot and i found nude pics of him on her phone. Then we agreed not to lie anymore and to open and honest,but she is now talking with another friend from high school and she didnt tell me first but i got suspious of her actions and looked on her FB page and found messges from him to her and looked to me as if they were flirting. she gave him her number and now they talk on YIM alot. So what should i do to trust her again?

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-to-trust-a-loved-one-who-has-lied-to-you-multiple-times/feed/ 1 how do i get my wife to stop wondering if her life would have been better with her ex? http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-stop-wondering-if-her-life-would-have-been-better-with-her-ex/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-stop-wondering-if-her-life-would-have-been-better-with-her-ex/#comments Sat, 08 Jan 2011 13:38:09 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1508 Continue reading →]]> my wife and i have been together for about 8 years, married for 3. lately she has been talking about her ex and wonders if she made the right choice in life. i try and show her how much i appreciate her and even arranged a sitter for our kids so i could make her a romantic dinner. she makes jokes about her ex, i have never even met him and she tells me people can always go back and chnge their life. it makes it harder to help her forget about her ex when her mother had left a stable relationship to be with an old boyfriend she found on facebook about a year ago. i tell my wife i love her everyday and i let her know i am always here for her, but i feel like i am losing her. help please?

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-get-my-wife-to-stop-wondering-if-her-life-would-have-been-better-with-her-ex/feed/ 0 How do I avoid ending my marriage ? http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-avoid-ending-my-marriage/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-avoid-ending-my-marriage/#comments Thu, 30 Dec 2010 21:48:45 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1503 Continue reading →]]> I met a former colleague for dinner. She had helped me with some job opening introductions and we became friends. When I met her for dinner, I told my wife I was meeting some work friends. I did this to avoid making a big deal of this because I feared my wife would be upset with me meeting a female colleague. I love my wife and have never been unfaithful to her. She is now very upset and wants to end our marriage. I have not been unfaithful and have never been. I like making friends and developing friendships. How do I handle this sitiation at home, now that my wife wants to end the marriage ?

]]> http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-do-i-avoid-ending-my-marriage/feed/ 1 How much should I show I care? http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-much-should-i-show-i-care/ http://www.guyscrytoo.com/how-much-should-i-show-i-care/#comments Mon, 27 Dec 2010 18:25:11 +0000 Anonymous http://guyscrytoo.com/v2/?p=1498 Continue reading →]]> I dated this guy for almost 5 years. He broke up with me because he felt we needed to date other people. I was devastated. He swore there was no one else (although I wonder) and that if this was about getting into another relationship he never would have left. Well, he tells me about 5 months later that he is “in love” with some other girl. I swore him off at that point and told him to never reach out to me again. It’s been 1.5 years since I’ve talked to him last, and he’s been emailing and txting a lot over the last few months. I wasn’t sure what to make of this until a mutual friend told me he wasn’t dating this other girl anymore. Needless to say I told him I wasn’t interested in being his friend after all of this time especially given the circumstance. Again he swears reaching out had nothing to do with “her”..(yea ok..)
Anyway he has been asking me to coffee. Part of me still loves him, or at least THINKS I still love him and therefore wants to see him. The other part of me feels he doesn’t deserve to see me every again. But still I agreed to meet. Here is the thing, his birthday is this Sunday and I will see him on Monday. Do I txt him a happy birthday or do I just stay silent and ask him about his birthday when I see him? Also how should I respond to him during coffee?

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