Me and my girlfriend broke up 3 years back. She married somebody else. Now she has suddenly mailed me and wants to explain as to what happened and wants to know if we can sort things out and find some sort of closure. I don’t know if I should reply back. Please advice.
wow. why is she wanting closure now, after 3 years. I think she thinks you might have resentment. she doesn’t want enemies or anything, just live a smooth life. you get into tricky things with this. keep it brief and keep it polite if you do reply. take a long time between replies if you want, don’t let it be a center stage.
if you must reply, and you don’t have to, I’d say keep it brief and polite.. something that lets her know you don’t think about it anymore and then reply long time the next one or two times if there is another email and then let it drift.
don’t suggest being best friends or anything, definitely not meeting! by experience, these things aren’t good. I had a guy do that (didn’t marry) but he had a serious girlfriend and it was weird. never really went into the why and everything.. why should I, so long ago, couldn’t even remember everything just remember the not compatible part.
you could leave it with you two just weren’t compatible, and it’s okay. wish you well in your marriage. don’t have any resentments, we have separate lives.. things that say polite response and brief. no gory details needed (why rehash things? seriously)
A guy did that (looked and found me), I didn’t know what to do either. felt better after the response. I didn’t want to not reply at all, don’t want to look like I hated the person or anything, but kept it succinct and brief (just know they’re probably reminiscing and hoping they don’t fall into patterns or something).
by replying with something like from above it’s closure saying no hard feelings you don’t really need to go into anything, you dropped it and you’re fine.
the only thing I have to tell you is that you can catch yourself talking and replying and falling into patterns and communicating again, which I don’t advise. keep it succint and let go. but it’s okay if you want to reply, just keep on guard, polite and brief. please don’t try to be best friends or anything, not a good idea.
what are you trying to say- anonymous 10:38 am? You told them to visit a website went to a dating site place. the guy posting doesn’t need to find a date! lol, just advice on how to approach a re-connect. that was so a plug for the site. don’t listen anonymous
do what you feel is comfortable. there is no right or wrong.