well , i’ve met this girl 7 years ago . and now maybe 5 months or so we started talking and we have gotten to know eachother very well. we are seriously bestfriends. after getting to know her i felt like i kinda liked her. a little longer and i knew i loved her. we talk just about everyday all day or however long we can talk. a wihle ago i told her i liked her i didnt want to .. but i had to.. even though she already had a boyfriend. her reaction was positive . she said she would but she cant .. and i understood compleatly that i couldnt be with her at the time. after i told her things were diffrent between us. it felt like the closer i got to her the more she pushed me away. then now it just feels like we get closer and closer up to a certain point. she keeps acting as if she likes me when shes around me when i look her in the eyes she stares at me and then she blushes and looks away quick and shes always playing with her hair. it feels almost as if shes flirting with me to keep me around.. recently i told her how i really felt about her and if theres a chance we could be together. she said “We’re like bestfirends and.. idk its just confusing” i asked her if it was because shes afraid that something might happen and ill leave her. she said “well.. yea.. ” … ive told my self that its ok that i cant be with her as long as she is happy. i know i sound like a selfish ass, but i just really want to be with her and i dont know how to go about this anymore shes the only girl i want to be with. im sorry for making this so long and confusing.
you’ve known each other for a long time. she’s in a comfy zone. it’s difficult. doesn’t sound like she wants to change things, she gets to stay in her comfy zone. you have to push and pull her to see if she’ll keep you if you leave, how strong that bond between you really is. when you start to move on then she’ll see if she finds there’s a void where you’ve been, it’s that void and how it makes her feel that will make her rethink what she wants. and its about what she wants as much as it is what you want. in a relationship there are two people, only two, and you both are in it together. the key is together