Do you thinnk he thinks about me to and what we had was real? or could happen? ok to make a long story short as possible. We became friends when i was 12 he was 11 and now im 21 and he is 20 clearly lol but when we were younger we became friends did laundry together stayed out infront of our houses until our famlies called us in we talked about everything we argued we just we best best friends, he started crushing on me and i was just a lil girl so i blew it off and it hurt him i guess but didnt affect the friend ship eventually he started dating girls and i found my self arguing with him for nothing and realized i liked him so i told him and he say we are just friends, so that was that he and i finally got into our first serious relaionships thing was my bf was his friend and his gf and i became best friends,(at the begining of his relationship which a little before mine we were walking together cause we were still best friends well he told me he didnt know about his gf and we kissed! after being friends for 3 years!) yrs later our relationships ended. we ended up finally sleeping together which had been five yrs of being friends and known we were attracted to each other and weird thing is his family switched apartments (we lived in the same complex) and he ended up directly above me!! we ended up hanging out late at night when our friends left and slept together and we talked about things that seemed to hard to say, we said how it seemed like fate he moved above me and how his grandpa told him once i would be the kind of woman that when my man got home dinner would be done and i would be something a man wants to come home to.he was there for me when my dad died and i was being cheated on by my bf and he told me and i said he is a liar and come to find out it was true he still stuck by me, he was waiting for me when i got home from the aorport not my bf and i was txtn my bf and he goes why are you txtn him im here with you right now and he isnt even replying, he was right all those times i was blind and rude to him yet he never left.he even came over once late at night knocked on my window and my man was there(the guy that was his bestfriend, but once my ex knew he hated him) and my ex answered and he was just like hey wanna kick it to cover up for being at my window but my ex knew why..and once when we were kissing he said i think we are more then friends i think we love each other and i could not believe it i agree 100% though. and he said i think we will end up dating other ppl and eventually come back to each other skip the dating and we will be married.we never got into a relationship and he tried but i was conflicted by my ex still and didnt even want to hurt him if i made a mistake so i didnt allow nothign, he is with a girl now who is terrible for him on drugs dragged him down and i asked his sis the other day about him and if he had a number and a gf that would mind me talking to him(i didnt know thy were still together so i asked) she said he is in another state and is with her still so i said that fine i just wanted to see how he is i havent seen him in over a yr. and i get a random txt saying you want more info on him he is married so fu*k off . i said congratulations im happy for you guys, i know he is not married and his sis is young and prob just told them hey so n so was asking about you and his gf got pissed but im not arguing. do you think that what we had was real? because its never left my mind, i some how believe it and feel crazy but it feels so right. will we be married someday? does he want me or mean what he said? i honestly love him and found him to be the emotionally strongest guy i ever met. does this all mean anything to him?
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Do something please. Respect him and the other girl. Do not try to break him up. If you two were/are meant to be, it will happen, but not like this. It isn’t like they’re just dating. They’re in another state. It’s still the same girl, from what you wrote and someone told you please don’t interfere. Respect it please. Keep your eyes and heart open for the future. It may or may not include him. You won’t get far if you can’t put things aside and think of something else. You’re only 21 too. You have a good ten years for everything to fall in place better. 21 you’re still in high state of emotion, hormones etc, you have a lot of time. He, I’m sure, has heard about you trying to contact him through his sister. Leave it at that. His family probably talked to him about it. If it doesn’t work for them he’ll find his way out of it and in the right direction. 20 and 21 are still times to find yourself and figure things out. Who you are, what you want, what job/career you want to work for. You have a lot of things to juggle. Let things fall in place. You already did the reach out. Let him take the next step, if he wants to respond.
It’s true you both have or had an attraction for each other. But leave it. He might have found something good. Don’t cause a sore in his life. And, the other girl, whoever she is, doesn’t deserve this. Respect her as if she was you. Situation could easily have been you in another scenario. How would you feel? I just say respect.
I wouldn’t suggest it. But you could always facebook search and add him. See if he accepts or doesn’t, if he has one set up.