I’m in love with her, we dated for maybe 8 months before she had to go back home for school and work. We met at a restaurant where we worked at, but only both part time as she is a nurse and myself a student.
Since she left in the summer I visited her once, and shes coming to visit me in less than a week.
We text frequently but sometimes with texting i feel like I’m not getting a quick enough reply… whereas when we were together she could reply to her best friends at 8am right away. She does these things for me to think she’s over the top in love with me, but then, for instance I got a message early morning yesterday (a Saturday), i replied a couple times and haven’t gotten a message since (it’s now Sunday morning).
Am I trying to being controlling or obsessive?
You need to just relax. Let it come as it will. If after relaxing, you aren’t getting what you want from her – tell her. Be honest, upfront, and make sure you’re both on the same page about your relationship boundaries.
Sometimes people aren’t good together after realizing what else is out there. Not to say either of you aren’t “good” enough for each other, but, you both deserve to be happy right?
You aren’t being controlling, and the natural feeling of being obsessive towards her will go away with time.
So, again, my short answer is to tell her exactly how you feel, or, be content with how things are.
Let us know what happens after you talk, if you’d like.