Okay I guess my wife has known these people for over ten years. She has not been in contact with them for well over half of those years. Suddenly they contact her on Facebook. More specifically her Ex boyfriend on Facebook. She is suddenly ready to fly out the door to meet these people for drinks at a local bar. Normally I would understand, but there is the ex boyfriend, at least one old fuck buddy, and at least one guy she has at least had sex with in the group. She says that they are just friends, and there is nothing there. Keep in mind this ex boyfriend she used to swear up and down that he is crazy and dangerous. As soon as he messages, because he “admits he was crazy” he is “one of her best friends and one of the few people she really trusts and is close to.” I guess the boyfriend has a fiance now that he brought to the bar with him. I kept telling her that I’m not worried about anything happening between anyone, because I trust the hell out of her. I just can’t take the thought of her getting drunk off her ass, laughing, and reliving the good times with an ex boyfriend, and people she has had sexual relations with. She then guilt trips me with the concept that “I’m not letting her have friends.” She goes anyway with full knowledge that I am dying at home. She can’t seem to see that she is doing anything wrong. So I’m faced with pain either way. Either I have to sit and die eveery time she goes out with these people, or I have to live with the guilt of her not having friends because of me as she put it, since she won’t make new ones. One of the old fuck buddies she sent a text message to that said “I feel good when I’m around you.” She swears up and down that that is her normal friend talk, when I’ve never heard her say anythhing like that to anyone except me. She has been crying practically to her other ex, and the fuck buddy since all this began about our marital problems behind my back as well instead of keeping things private. No matter how I express all these feelings she always falls back on “they are her friends.” That I’m not allowing her to be happy, and that I’m forcing her to not have people to talk to about our problems even after I asked her to keep these problems between us. Or at least not between her and Ex boyfriends and fuck buddies. And she says they are just being friends that are there for her. I am writing here to see if I am just being a paranoid jackass, or if I really am in the wrong. Keep in mind I have not asked her not to go, just expressed my disaproval. She refuses to acknowledge that most people would not be comfortable with this, and keeps saying that she is allowed to have the friends she chooses. Now she is saying she does not have to tell me every detail of what she talks about with them after I found out she was practically crying on some of their shoulders about our marital problems. She said she can have her privacy when discussing our marital problems with these people.