i met her on a dating site and we had everything in common. she lives 2 hours away and i hate the distance but we told each other that we can make it work if we really try. we dated for a little bit and i realized she was perfect. she likes the same music as me, supports the decisions i make, tells me to follow my dreams, urges me to go back to school, accepts that i have a son etc. etc. etc. well i told her i loved her and she said she loved me as well. but i kinda of screwed up on valentines day. i had plans to see her and i was excited because it would be our first valentines day together. we both have different views on the holiday where she thinks its stupid and all about cards and chocolates and roses, and i think its a special day that you spend with someone you love whether you spend cash or not. well she decided not to see me and i got really upset and broke it off. two days later i realized i had done a terrible thing when she went and spent the night at a guy friend of hers. she says they didnt do anything and if they did its not my business. i told her i want her back and she says i have to prove it. i love her to death but i dont know how to prove it to her. i was going to write her a song but i feel its kind of cliche and also when im pressured to write i cant come up with anything good. what should i do? i really love this girl and it would tear me up if i had to live with out her…
that was quick on her to go.. spending the night at a guy friend’s house (whether they are/were just friends or not). I think she was trying to give you clues when she said she doesn’t want to spend time with you on the valentine’s. you might have more invested in this than her, things may appear smooth but she may not be happy. (contrary to what you think, it’s difficult for girls to accept a man that has children, big big step.. keeper if your son and her get along and she and you can see her as taking an important role in his and your life long-term).. her easiness to excuse herself means she thinks there can be something more different for her out there that might resonate better with her. issues like a man who already has a child outweighs being annoyed or not with a box of candy, but us girls won’t admit outright the real issues most of the time. we do like to dodge delicate matters. it wasn’t valentines. whatever the real issue is it was projected onto valentine’s day.
she sounds not interested. I’d say hold off on the song writing. what does she want you to prove? fact is she is hesitating but she’s got good control of you.. she must be doing something right. must be special for you to like her that much. if you two can’t communicate with each other where you are then rethink where you are. maybe there’s more to the story, I don’t know, but from what you wrote looks like she isn’t interested.. there needs to be a hook.. what can you offer her that she wants/needs in her life.. be that for her and she’s yours.
well she says the reason she didnt spend valentines day with me was because i didnt tell her how i felt about it and pretended that i had the same views on the holiday as she did. i just didnt wanna seem like i was all emotional about it. instead i gave her up over a stupid issue when she was all about me. she says she wants to give it another go but she wants to take it slow…and apparently make me sweat. she drops hints that shes going to take me back like “your not my boyfriend..yet” and i call her out on it in a playful way. she still tells me she loves me everyday and stays on the phone with me all day. these are details i kinda left out of the story. she tells me that she thinks shes the girl who can help me get my life back on track, and i believe it. she sees potential in me to be what she wants/needs in her life. and i like that someone who actually believes in me…she thinks my son is really cute idk how they get along because hes only a year old. i hope she wants to stick around. when me broke up she was really bitter. she says she wants me to get to know her on a deeper level because while im more emotional shes really hesitant to show emotion. but she knows i see through it and wants me to see her true self…. have your opinions changed any?
she’s totally into you!! lol, the story is really cute. you’re getting to know each other (and falling in love!!).. that is so sweet. best wishes.. sounds like you were both just nervous. I think she’s totally into you, and you called it.. she’s making you sweat! lol. sounds like a keeper situation to me!!!
but still.. the going and spending the night at the guy’s house was not cool at all. she knew you were totally into her and she was playing the game that she’s into you the “almost boyfriend” thing.. I just wouldn’t be the type to do that.. then again, it got your attention, jealousy can work.
curious, how long have you known each other? fascinating, I like your story.
how do you get her back?
just ask.
Well for one she sounds like an idiot to hate valentines day!!!! And i as well write songs. Don’t try and feel pressured just release all that tension and write what you really feel and it will eventually come together as a song and its not cliche as a girl i would LOVE for someone to write ME a song just keep trying…i know something will come to you!