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I’ve been in a few long term relationships before and normally its falling right in love with the guy early on, and then it growing into something more.. The guy I’m currently with (it’s been 4 months) has never been in a long term relationship and apparently has only told one girl he loved them, and said he didn’t really feel that way about her. He’s very hard to read. Anyways, more recently he’s started to call me “love” and even has said a few times “my love” in front of his family… Is he starting to fall for me or is in love with me? Is this normal for guys?

Long story but I’ll make it short lol

I recently found an old friend from 10 years ago. We were good friends and used to hang out quiet a bit. I even spent Xmas with his parents and his Mum said: “you’re going to marry that girl” … anyway, I never knew that at the time. I always put him in the friend category as there was a girl in town at the time then claiming he was the father of her child. So I dare not go there! He tried to kiss me once and I told him I wasn’t feeling it. (It didn’t feel right at the time). We sort of forgot about it and stayed friends. Stuff happened and we went our seperate ways….

I tried to find him 5 years ago and called his phone. A woman answered and she said he was her girlfriend. I said Great, I’m an old friend and can you let him know I called. I learnt years later that when he got home she accused him of cheating on her. I was only a friend, but with two kids, she was feeling insecure. She recently apoligised for this when he told her (they are still friends and have been seperated for 3 years now). So all good.

Anyway! We spent 5 hours talking on the phone about old times and called regularly, messaged etc for a week before he booked a flight to come see me. He met me at the airport with a single red rose and we had an amazing weekend together. Even mentioned the long distance thing until I finished my studies in over a year etc.

A month past and the texts were getting more tantalising and sexual teasing, not so much emotionally connecting like they were in the beginning. They became more friend like as well, confusing to me. I could have over analyzed it though.

One night the pressure got to me over my financial situation, intense medical studies and feeling stuck in general. I guess I became a bit emotional and although I don’t feel I blamed him I said I couldn’t do the long distance thing as it was too much pressure for me. He got sad, and I got sad. I had a few wines and wasn’t thinking clearly. I regret losing it.

Now he is taking time out. He says he wants time and he will contact me. He still wants to see me after Xmas, etc. He says he doesn’t want a relationship with anyone right now. He says he’s not upset with me – but how can he not be, I totally lost it. I must have confused the hell out of him. I feel so bad for this but I can’t take it back.

He wants to be just friends now. He says he’s happy the way his life is at the moment, but somehow I don’t believe that. Why would he fly so many miles and spend so much money? I know it wasn’t a booty call lol

I’m really confused. He wants to be friends and now I respect his wishes. I haven’t spoken to him for over a week. I texted him a friendly message asking how he was? how is work on the house going, etc. No answer.

He says I can call anytime for a chat but I don’t want to call, as he doesn’t pick up and it leave me feeling worse. If I block my number he will pick up. Well I did this once and he answered lol

I know it sounds confusing. I do love this guy. I don’t mind telling him that, as I do. However, anyone got some insight. I really need it!!!

I don’t want to have to remove him from facebook but if I can’t move on I may need to for my own sanity!

PS. He did tell me he didn’t know what he wanted in a relationship. I said well, if you don’t know what you want, then you don’t want what you have!” … This scared me too. I don’t want to get played. I want to be able to trust him.

Thanking you in advance

We dated about twelve years ago, and recently became reconnected about a year ago.

OK me and my guy met about 3 months ago online. We decided to make things offical and we are doing GREAT!! Well at least I hope so. We have had no arguments or no disagreements but here in the past couple of days he has not called at his usual times and I dont get it. He says he will call me back and he dosent. Is he hinting around to me that he is not interested any more? Just 3 days ago he was talking about flying in so i dont know what has changed… could he just be getting comfortable??? HELP!!!

About a year ago, a guy friend of mine (who I dated very briefly back in high school and haven’t spoken to in years) contacted me because he was having trouble with his at the time girlfriend. He would ask my advice and even send me things that she told him. At the same time I was having problems and he helped me get through them. To make a long story short she ended up breaking up with him (they dated for 3 years I believe) and began dating someone new shortly there after. After that he would text me all the time to talk and hang out. We would go bowling, putt-putt, movies, out to lunch, (things friends do). Eventually he brought up having a sexual relationship and I told him I wasn’t really into doing that and avoided the topic whenever he brought it up. A few months later we did end up having sex and continued having a sexual relationship for 5 months. While this was going on, he would constantly hug me, kiss me, ask me to spend the night, force me to cuddle with him afterwards, tell me I’m the best looking girl (basically anything a person who was interested in starting a relationship would say to someone) and text me all the time just to see how I was doing and how my day was. At first I was very standoffish because I didn’t want to get my hopes up (and thought that he was just doing this stuff to get into my pants). But every time I saw him even if we didn’t have sex, he would act like he wanted to be with me so I ended up falling for him. I told him how I felt and he said that he liked me, that I was a good person, but he didn’t think he could ever love me. He admitted he was starting to get attached to me even though he knew it wasn’t going to go anywhere. He said he wasn’t over his ex, that he was an emotional wreck, and that he just needed to feel close to someone. I told him I was done with the sexual relationship and didn’t know if we could still be friends. He practically begged me to still be friends with him and that we should hang out when he no longer was so f***ed in the head. I guess my question is, Does this guy have feelings for me even though he says he doesn’t because he’s worried about either starting a new relationship and getting hurt again or he thinks he and his ex might get back together (even though she’s dating someone) or something because things just don’t seem to add up to me. You don’t contact someone out of the blue; hang out all the time, act like you want a relationship, and then just stop. Maybe I’m just naive and am hoping for something but I would really like other people’s opinions.

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