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I met my boyfriend just over 4 years ago online. When I talked to him online I never actually thought I would meet and fall in love with this guy, so I told a few lies about myself & family that I have never really cleared up to him yet. Now I have noticed he has sort of got a hunch about a few things that aren’t true. He has been mentioning it and that if he ever found out I wasn’t being trueful he would leave me and so on. Other than the few lies that I have told early on in the relationship we truly love each other, never had any issues what so ever with cheating or not being happy with each other. I just don’t know what to do anymore, we both want to take our relationship to the next level (marriage) but he keeps telling me he thinks i’m hiding things… and I have not told the truth because I am too scared to loose him… I really need some advice if anyone could please help me i would greatly appreciate it

Ok, so I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years, he is 28 years old and I am 25 years old. I recently asked him to marry me and he said that we were not ready yet. I tell him that I love him, but he seems uncomfortable saying it, his family doesn’t show much affection to each other or anyone that I have ever seen them with. He shows a lot of affection to me tho, just not with the words I love you. When I asked him to marry me I asked if he felt that we have a future together and he said that he has gone shopping for a ring but can’t afford it. My response was I dont’ want a ring, I just want him, I want him to be my husband forever. He still said we are not ready and I said that I am ready, but I am not going to wait forever for him to get ready. Since we had this discussion, he has been a lot more lovey dovey to me. He has been giving me lots of hugs, kisses ect, more date nights, and he has started to do more stuff around the house. We have lived together for about 2 years now and he has never been into chores much but now all of a sudden he is doing them with out me asking. I asked him what prompted his change and he always says something like what change? Is this his way of showing me that he wants a future with me but he isn’t ready yet? Or could he just be leading me on? I feel that he truely does love me, but I told him that he needs to make a choice on this matter before our lease is up a year from now because I’m not going to wait forever. Do you think I should just let the topic go? I’m a little confused about him right now, but I really appreciate the changes he has made! He has really made my life easier with the help he has given me, and who could be upset about more hugs and kisses, right?

ok well theres this guy i really really like but hes daiting my friend and im not breaking them up but he said he likes me to some what and i know not to get between them or break them up and i wont cause im not like that but i need to have some advice on this in what i should do i wamnt to date him cause we like each other but hes daiting my friend what should i do

i really like my best friend! and i cant stop thinking about him! i wish i would stop it…..sometimes i wish i didn’t like him so much…..’cause it kinda hurts…..i think he knows that i like him (that’s what one of our friends told me) there’s times when i think he likes me back….and there’s other times were i cant tell at all, then i wonder if he’s just being him…like there was this one time were i was kind of doodling on my paper and he’s sitting next to me, and he just kinda kisses my finger or something, i got really flustered and didn’t look up cause i didn’t want him to see my face, then when we were walking latter on, he just randomly starts talking about biting people and that he bit me but he didn’t want to hurt me and stuff and he said it in this voice he has when he’s trying to ya know “explain” himself……i didn’t know what to think of it……and the other day we were at another friends house and we were watching a movie “Out cold”and the dialogue in the movie made me kinda blush, and yea…i dont usually watch stuff like that, just me…and he was on the other side of the couch and he’d look over and smile at me and stuff…and i dont know if he was thinking that i was kinda weird or whatever…..
..i’ve tried telling him how i feel but each time i cant, i end up changing the subject as soon as i say his name……… i dont know what to do……i feel so confused….

This post was submitted by WuyaXue.

ok so before i tell you what i want, heres some infor about me. im 17 and i have a very good job, i am at a management postion. i am a senior in HS and am going away to niagra university in the fall of 09. im also extremely mature for my age do to many family problems ive been through and have faced.

so heres my question. im a nice girl, pretty, independent and confident, not to the point of being cocky but i dont give up when challenged. for me, having guys like me and want to go out with me isnt the problem. the guys that end up falling for me are similar to me, but are always caught up in smoking or drinking. because of personal issues, i wont drink or smoke and have no real intention to. and, while depending on the guy, most times i can deal with it. but then theres the fact that every guy wants me to put out really soon in a relationship. im more of a emotional person before i can get physical with someone. honestly, im still a virgin and have no intention on changing that becuase i have some crazy idea that i want to be in love and truly care about the man before i give myself to someone like that.

so the question, are there guys out there who are mature beyond there years, yet still near my age who dont drink heavily or smoke weed, and are willing to wait…or am i just a hopeless romantic. lol it seems like every guy has some flaw that is a major turn off to me. guys, let me know am i being really picky and selfish or is there someone out there like this!!

This post was submitted by susie.

This boy told me he liked me on myspace but, the next day he didn’t return my messages. I also go on his page and he’s talking to other girls!!! He’s been online and everything and he just wont talk to me, I didn’t offend him or anything. Then, today after two days of ignoring me he msg me and says, “hey boo” which he calls every other girl on myspace. It makes me mad. What’s up?

Ok, this is a very long story but I’ll try to summarize it as best as I can. I met this boy and we were friends for a while. We decided to become more than just friends. We went out for 3 months. After dealing with a lot of mind games and lies, I became fed up and broke up with him. It was very hard to do because I still loved him. But I knew it was the best thing for me. Two weeks went by and his friends kept talking to me and saying “Hey. —– still likes you.” or “Why did you break his heart?” or “He’s crying inside.”….blah blah blah. Half of my friends were convinced that he wanted to get back together. I became happy because maybe he realized what an asshole he’s been. So, our school’s Homecoming was coming up. His friends kept saying to me that he wanted to talk to me, and my best friend said “I really think he wants you back. Im almost positive.” So I talked to him and Homecoming. However, he said that he wanted to remain close friends. He said he had to focus on his grades (We go to a College Preparatory School). He said he still liked me alot. I was heartbroken. My mother, whom I often seek for advice, thinks that he still liked me but we couldnt get back together for several reasons. Three or four months go by and I’m still getting crap from his friends about our relationship. They keep saying, “How could u break his heart?” Something along those lines…

Our Semi-Formal comes up and one of his best friends ask me. His best friend and I have been good friends for awhile, so I say yes and we go JUST AS FRIENDS. Obviously, my Ex gets angry and jealous. My Ex saw us dancing together at Semi and I could tell by the look on his face that his heart was shattered. So, it’s obvious that my ex still likes me and I still like him…his best friend knows that. After all the drama, everything settles down. All of a sudden, my Ex and I become friends again. Two days ago, I was talking to the “best friend” and he said “lol oh my god, u guys are definitly gonna get back together by the time the school year ends.” I act like I don’t believe him. This friday, a group of my friends are gonna go to the movies, and in the group includes, the best friend and my ex….

I don’t know what to do. Should I get back together with him? I dont even know what emotions to feel! Is it a trick? Is history repeating itself? I honestly dont know what to do or think or anything! All of my friends and my parents are against us getting back together. I dont know. Is it gonna turn out like our old relationship? All we did was fight and argue. I know it would be easier to move on, but I still like him…and something tells me that he still likes me…but does he like me enough that he wants to get back together?

I know this is very complicated. But I would appreciate some words of advice. I’m in a HUGE battle with my Mind and my Heart lol

I’m scared. I don’t want to be hurt again.

We went out in June – the beginning of September.

All of this has happened in the course of 4 months….

I thought I could get a male’s point of view. If you could help, that would be great appreciated!

Most of the time when my boyfriend and I are getting intimate he always wants to finish first. He always makes sure I am satisfied at the end, but I didn’t know if this meant anything or if I should take it personal?

This post was submitted by chrystalball.