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I have posted “does she like me or what?” question a while back but here is a update, and some new stuff.

A few weeks ago, I have finally asked her out and she said yes. We picked the date and the date was on, or so I thought. It turns out that the babysitter had to cancel at the last minute. I was unsure, till her sister told me that she had to cancel plans cause of the sitter backing out, which I was cool about. Keep in mind she was a sober.

Monday rolls around, we were in the bar chillin and talking, I messed with her some, played around with her like play fighting, etc, and I was BSing with another friend how I am undifeated with beerpong. My friend wanted to challenge me to a one on one, and she made it into a date, but this time… she is a little drunk. We played around and flirted with each other for the rest of the night. But right before she left, she and her sister had a little arguement and ouf of randomness, I threw Ice at my friend. She threatened to bite me if I did it again. Her sister thanked me, so I threw ice at my friend again, and she dropped her guitar and walked right up to me and looked into my eyes and looked down at my chest and she clamped her mouth on my chest for a good 30 seconds to a minute and at the same time pinching my stomach. I keeps swatting her hand away from my stomach but she kept pinching it. She let go of me and grabbed her guitar and left. Her sister told me that she will bite me, but I ignored her and went off. And yes she cancelled this date due to the kid.

Next monday rolls around, we finally get to have our beerpong tourney. One of the first things I have done when I got there, I got my water. We were chatting for a bit, and once my cup was empty, I took a piece of ice and dropped it down her back. Next thing I know she tries to take my cup away and grabbed a handfull of ice and stuck her hand up my shirt and place the ice on my bere chest thinking it will effect me, but it didnt. Night goes on and we finally get to play beerpong. Right now she is a bit waisted.

It was me and a friend vs she and her brother. My friend shoots first of our team, and I was not paying attention. Next thing I heard right before my turn, “Kevin I know you want to F**k me.” I was in shock. I turned and looked at her and she was smiling about it and her brother and my friend were laughing. I made my shot and missed. I was still in system shock while we played our game, I was speechles to her, but every time I was up, she would smile at me and bend over where I can see her cleavage, and that did not help my situation. I was in a good shock for a hour or two after what she had done to me. But we won the match.

Next match I played, she was not playing, but in the middle of the second match, she kept kneeing me, and hitting me, the whole time smiling. I put a stop to her, and she tried to bite me while I did it, but she didnt and called a truce on me.

The night went on, I was talking with her brother when she walked by me and slapped me on the behind, I ran to her and slapped her behind as hard as I could (not really) and she started toward me and hit me and stuff, she called a truce again, but she left for the night.

Thursday night rolls around for our weekly beerpong tourney. Her brother shows up, when he is supposed to be at a concert with her. Just her brother being there, puts both of us in the doghouse with her. We had our fun for the night till about 1 in the morning is when I found out she has been arrested for a DUI. We were all silent and worried.

The same day but later on in the evening after I got off of work, I stop at the bar to tell her sister, that if she need a ride or anything let my know. (I am a type of person that would do this to my friends.) Later that night she text me :thanks.

Now yesterday, I gotten a chance to talk to her in person since her arrest (friday morning). We talked for a good 15 min. Then I asked her out again, this time instead of a simple yes it was a maybe. She dropped a bombshell on me. “I dont know what is going to happen with this DUI stuff, and also I do not want any confusion with you. I will do it only as friends. I am not ready for a relationship now.” That has stopped me in my tracks. I wanted to take it slow in the first place, but when she said that my mind has gone into a state of confusion.

The date I was going to take her is a dinner, and someplace isolated and quiet, so we can view the stars and talk, think, etc. It is a place I go to when i need to think when I am in a bind. I was going to take her there to see if it could help her in her situation, a place for relaxation.

I guess my questions would be, should I stay by her side and help her through this?
Should I stick it out to see if a relationship will evolve from it or haul butt?
There is just too many questions rinning in my mind at the moment.

My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 months. Everything started out great, but maybe a bit too fast.
We had begun to distance, I feel responsible for that, I had been hiding some things, nothing with another person but some things, which I have since admitted to.
About a week ago, She told me she needed space, She’s taking an important board exam and feels that this relationship is taking study time from her, I agree with that and told her right now our relationship should not be her main priority,
But then she said that she does not see herself with me in the future and that she sees her ex, and has recently started having feelings about him,
She has not seen him in a long time, he lives in a different country, but after she told me she needed space she has talked to him.
She still text me everyday and we have hung out twice, the second time we hung out ended in sex, and about a 2 hour conversation where I said the whole space thing has been good for me too, I’ve been able to focus on other things aside from this relationship,
when we go out she still holds my arm,
She says though that she can’t keep going with me until she sees her ex, and finds out if her feelings are true,
Her family lives where her ex lives, and she will be traveling there in a couple of months.
I have known this girl for 5 years and I have always felt like she was the one,
We are great together, I truly love her,
Her happiness is number 1 to me, but In a selfish way I do want her happiness to be with me.
I’m not sure how to approach this situation, and what I should or shouldn’t do.
Thanks for reading.

This post was submitted by whawhatmf5.

There’s a guy that comes and talks with me all the time, walks with me and talks with me at lunch and breaks, never in a rush to go anywhere. We went for coffee once, long ago, but he was dating others and got into a relationship with one. He said he didn’t want to be in the relationship later at some point. I think he liked me. I don’t know if they broke up or not. I didn’t ask, and when he talked about it I pretended I was preoccupied, he could have thought I didn’t hear him. I don’t know if they did break up or not, I didn’t ask relationship questions. He does talk in general about relationships, never about people we know or with names. And, when he mentioned or talked about her he only referred to her as a classmate or friend. But then in a group not long ago, when she wasn’t there, he called her his girlfriend in front of a friend. I found out who she was a little while ago. I see her walking by herself when he’s with me and I wonder why isn’t he walking and talking with her. I know he notices I see her but he doesn’t take his eyes off me to her. Someone asked me if he and I were going out. We don’t talk about anything special, he’s just always near. I didn’t think about it much until I heard him say she’s his girlfriend to someone. And then noticed that he spent more time around me at least at school, enough that someone else asked me if I was going out with him. I don’t know what to make of it.

we are both in high school and have known each other for a long time we have been together for 5 months we are both attracted to one another she is happy that we are togther…. we do stuff together hold hands go on dates go to movies etc. we have been on 6 dates so far i pay on all of them…. we have had plenty of chances to kiss and iv tried all of them but every time i go for it she moves…. ihave also given her presents as well…. one thing that i have noted is that she is exstremly dependant on her friends she dosent stop texting them even were togther on a date for example she was lieing on my chest watching a movie i bought that she wanted to watch i also cooked her favorite food for her as well anyway she was texting and she said to me she would be right back she came back from her house with her laptop and started instant messaging while the movie was still going… when i ask her adout kissing she says were moving too fast and she wants to take it slow …ok well theres my story

I have known this girl over a year and I consider us casual friends. She is a mother of a 20 month old girl. and she broke up with her husband last year but still married. She is also a known tease in the lounge too.

About 5 months ago at the lounge was where I may have gotten my first possible clue when she wanted to wrestle (punch the S**t out of me) and bit me on the arm. She bit two other guys (friends) in the bar but both of them are married.

Three months ago, when I was looking for a gym, I was going to go to a gym with some friends that I knew from school. When I told her, she invited me to work out with her (as hot as she was I agreed.) For the past month we have been working out together and one thing I have noticed was, when she cleaned the equiment, she would bend over where I would have a clear sight of her nice @** and she would show me an exercise on a bench press and I could see right down her shirt. I would be on the machine and she would be stretching in front of the mirror infront of me. I would be looking at her, while she would be looking at herself and look at me. She has gotten me to loose over 25 lbs and I am still loosing, but we work out together once every two weeks.

Every now and then I would catch her staring at me. A couple of weeks ago, I was training a rather good looking DJ and one of my Best Friends, I saw my friend looking in our direction, whole body in our direction. We are on the oppisite end of the bar. Most recently when I told her that I am getting a guitar, Instantly she tells me that she will teach me what she knows.

The only problem I have with her is that she rarely answers her phone calls and or text from me, but then again my stuff is short and straight to the point. That is the biggest thing that throws me off with her.

I did ask her out and she agreed to the date, but her babysitter backed out at the last min, well from what her sister told me. I plan on waiting a couple of weeks before I ask her out again.