Ok so ive liked this one girl pretty much since i was like 6. Recentenly we’ve started talking a lot, but she is very pretty and she seems to talk to her ex. Another problem is she sends me mixed signals. I really like her and im losing sleep thinking about this please help.
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this is such a cute story, I have to respond.. can’t believe no one responded yet..
I heard of a story like this.. it ended up in marriage. cute, cute.. I hope it works out..
You have to talk to her.. not professing love, but small talk.. movies, books, weather, color of shirt, awesome deli around the corner.. little compliments help.. catches our attention.. I like your scarf, I like your shirt, that’s a good color on you, your hair looks different- it’s nice, you smell good- do you wear perfume?
She’s talking with her ex b/c she doesn’t have anyone else she can talk to. usually when its an ex, it means that she’s not stable enough to be independent.. she needs a crutch to move out to talking with other people.. things are always worse in a breakup than let on.. break ups happen for reasons.. but be on the alert if she’s intitating talking with the ex or he is.. it’ll tell who is more interested in who.. careful… just be quiet for the most part and listen.. usually time and stability knowing someone is there for her helps.. be the solid friend, the stable friend..
You’ve known her for a while, you need to break out of the.. he’s just there always and I’m not scared b/c it’ll never be anything so I’m in a comfy zone.. you need to up it.. by comments like that’s a nice perfume.. something that lets her think you see her as sexy.. as a romantic potential not a best friends potential.. comfort of knowing someone that long throws you into just friends category automatically.. slowly test the waters with the ‘i’m interested in you compliments’ but nothing too bright and showy.. don’t go for shock.. you’ve known each other too long.. you have to ease the idea of you two together slowly.. make it plausible and solid..
go places together.. coffee, shopping districts.. like outdoor mall area, having her advice for presents for your parents or siblings, comment something you see would actually look good on her..
mixed signals are okay.. it means you’re in the ballpark.. she’s thinking.. but you need to make an advance and be solid, not shy away..
..and.. gotta say.. if you don’t make a move to hold her hand, hug sweetly- a moment longer than normal, or kiss her cheek or something early on (something sweet but please not sleezy) then you risk the girl thinking.. okay.. it’s been too long.. something is wrong.. he’s going to be in the just friends category and I am going to have a hard time putting him into another category b/c this is just going to get comfy and there are no expectations.. I’ll spend time with a friend and hope one day the sweetheart I know is out there will find me and we’ll do coffee and he’ll sweep me off my feet and I’ll be telling everyone stories about how sweet really is..
..sometimes it’s nice to meet someone completely new b/c there are no expectations of what the person is like before not personas or ideas to break through or a new light to see someone in.. you have to work hard at showing you want another level..
..build a foundation of friendship, but hint sweet things to show the interest of girlfriend not girl is friend.
best of luck.
sweetness can trump looks
be a friend and be sweet
girls remember sweetness
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