Wife talking to ex-boyfriend

The Question

My wife and I have been married for 4 years and we have two beautiful kids together. She has recently got in contact with her ex-boyfriend, who is also her first love and they never really broke up, my wife moved to the U.S. where she continued her life without him. My wife was the one that made the initial phone call, she got his phone number from her cousin, who just happen to run into him and that is how my wife found out that he was now living just a few miles away now. My wife admitted to talking to him throughout the day while she was at work (which was almost 4 hours total). I felt uncomfortable with my wife talking so much with her ex and I attempted to tell her how I felt about her talking so much with her ex; however, she got defense with me and we ended up in a terrible argument. The following day I noticed that my wife spent over 3 hours talking to him again while at work. That night I reviewed her text messages and read some messages that he wrote that made me extremely upset. He had wrote messages such as: “It brings me great joy dreaming about you”, “I’m going crazy wanting to see you again”, “I can’t wait to hear your voice again”, and “I can spend all day talking to you”. I confronted my wife about the messages and he wrote and told her that I wish she would stop talking to her ex completely. My wife continues stating that there isn’t anything going on between them, and that she told him that he needs to stop talking like that because she is married. My wife also feels that I am just being jealous and insecure about our relationship. I told my wife that I feel that I am being very reasonable and I am very secure with our relationship; however, it’s not appropriate for her to continue any kind of relationship with her ex. She ha told me that she is not going to stop talking to him because she is not doing anything wrong. Let me also mention that he ha a girlfriend that he has been seeing for 7 years and she is clueless about what is going on, and my wife told me that his girlfriend does not know because she knows my wife and would disapprove. Don’t know what to do. I love my wife and wish not to have this end our relationship but I will not be ok with this continuing. Any advice will help.

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